Mårten Gantelius continues with the topic of his most recent post, the systematic (and systemic) discrimination against fathers under Swedish family law.
Family Law and the Genocide Against Fathers
by Mårten Gantelius
Same job — same salary. Same crime — same punishment. Does this make me a femaleophobe and an Islamophobe? Young men have just as much reason to fear women as we all have to fear Islam.
Millions of fathers have died in the gutter, crying in grief over their lost children. I could easily have been one of them. The mothers and the entire society couldn’t care less. And the mentally injured and alienated children don’t even go to their funerals.
During fifteen intense years, my profession was producing and performing puppet theatre for children in an extremely women-dominated world. I could write a 3000-page book about brutal female violence against children — especially small children. In this period, I had many tough conflicts with women. At the performances, I was in charge, and I wouldn’t let anyone of them destroy the performances and the children’s experiences.
From my own story in Scania in the southern part of Sweden:
In June 1992, I had planned to spend two weeks at my beloved summer cottage in Kuggeboda in the archipelago of Blekinge together with my three children. My 15-month-old daughter had had some minor problems with her ears — nothing serious at all.
A few days before departure, my daughter’s mother called me from Copenhagen. She told me that two small tubes had been surgically inserted into each of my daughter’s ears, and that she couldn’t join us in Kuggeboda. “No way,”, I said, “I’ll pick her up, according to the court decision.”
All kidnapping mothers follow exactly the same compulsory — and thus predictable! — pattern of actions. And the children suffer. For example, you always need to be accompanied by a strong, articulate witness in every personal contact with them. My Danish friend Lasse from Copenhagen accompanied me.
To my surprise, the mother handed over our daughter to me. Before leaving Kävlinge, I took my daughter to the local medical center. I wanted a doctor to look at her ears and tell me if there were any restrictions in for example bathing. My oldest son stayed in the theatre bus reading magazines. His interest in his little sister was limited. My three-year-younger son joined us. He had grieved in the depth of his heart when his little sister had been taken away from him.
The female doctor examined the ears, and then she burst out at me: “How could you initiate such an idiotic surgery? And just before a summer with sun and bathing? Your daughter will probably have plenty of problems for many years — maybe for the rest of her lifetime.”
When I asked her “Can I have that in writing?”, the silence was thick. The doctor had realized that the mother was responsible, and not me. Of course I didn’t get anything in writing. It would have cost the doctor — with a slight foreign accent — her job, and she would have been blacklisted throughout the entire country. Breaking the Code of Women’s Solidarity is not for free. That’s one of the reasons why you never saw any women in court witnessing to the disadvantage of a kidnapping mother.
And the doctor was right. During my daughter’s entire childhood, her ears were repeatedly inflamed and caused her great pains. Fortunately, her problems ended when she went to college.
As soon as I had found a place to stay in Copenhagen in the late 1992, I wrote to Köbenhavns Overpräsidium, which is the authority that decides father’s access rights to their children. Not only had the mother caused my daughter physical injuries, now she was on her way to causing her Parental Alienation Syndrome that ruins people’s lives mentally. After tough negotiations, I was given the right to have my daughter one Saturday from 10am to 6pm and the same two weeks later “as a test”. If it “worked out well”, I could have her every second Saturday 10 am to Sunday 6 pm. The psychologist knew that I had taken the daily care of my children for more than ten years, and that my daughter was born in Sweden and had been kidnapped to Denmark by her mother. The vital point is that she knew that I knew that she knew. This is the conscious, ultimate humiliation/violation as one of the tools of the True Merchandise, which is breaking down fathers mentally. Without this understanding, you don’t have a shadow of a chance to survive.
I saved my daughter from Parental Alienation Syndrome, but it is inevitable that her hard drive had been filled with bytes, describing the low value of a loving father — not only by her mother, but by the entire society.
Imagine a social secretary whose sort doesn’t exist. To my daughter’s mother: “You and Marten have common custody of the child. No one can prevent you from moving back to Copenhagen, but you mustn’t bring the child along and take her away from her brothers and her father. Even if the child is only six months old, Marten has had the daily care of her and not you. If you choose to bring her along, I will personally see to that you get two years in prison according to the law.
“You are in shock after your mother’s suicide in June. You need help.”
This short, clear and professional behavior would have saved a lot of human suffering and costs to society. But the biggest loss was the destruction of the complete Puppet Theatre with its hundreds of puppets, costumes, music instruments, toys, books and properties. I mean that 10 million USD is a low estimate.
But the True Merchandise of the Family Law Industry is to maximize its turnover. Thus, the mother was advised to kidnap our daughter to Denmark and hide in an unknown place. Immediately afterwards, I understood why the place should be unknown. It was to prevent me from going to Denmark and kidnap our daughter back. I have never had kidnapping on my repertoire.
I quote myself from the video at vimeo.com, “Institutional violence against children in Sweden during recent decades”: “You could claim that what these mothers and social workers do is worse than rape. A grown-up woman at least has the possibility of taking precautions and of resistance. The children are totally defenseless.”
If I were young today, I would have rented a box at a semen bank and then got myself sterilized. That’s the only safe way to protect oneself in a society that supports severe female criminality against children and fathers. It’s a simple surgery, and if you change your mind, you can always get a reverse-surgery with 50 % chance of regaining fertility.
Not long ago, a wonderful essay by JLH was posted at GoV — “Silence Means Assent”. Isn’t it time to break the silence?
Statistics on the genocide against fathers
Since all official figures were dezinformatsiya, I had to do my own investigation. In 1991 in the District Court of Lund, there were 900 custody cases. Zero (0) fathers won. I could count the number of children involved and relate it to the number of inhabitants in the municipalities that went under the court.
A friend of mine, working at the county administration in Malmö, gave me the secret number of children removed by force in the county.
Since the situation was the same in the entire country, I could extrapolate.
There is a dark figure where fathers have given up without fighting. (By the way, I told my clients that you won’t win, and your children will be injured. You should fight for the sake of your own self respect.)
An anecdote related to the dark figures:
One of my friends was a high, well-paid IT official at one of the big dragons in The Netherlands, and he loved his four children. One day when he got home from work, he was met by a note on the kitchen table: “I have moved with the children.” No warning signals in advance, at least none he had noticed. He broke down totally, lost his job and lost everything.
Of all places, he chose Stockholm to start afresh. And he didn’t have a clue where his children were.
This is how I got my estimate of 30,000 children a year in Sweden, which I mean as a low estimate.
Since I have reason to believe that the situation is the same in all Europe, I could extrapolate and arrive at the figure of 2.5 million children a year. In fact, it is of minor importance if the correct figure is two or four million children a year. There is no doubt, it is a huge, hidden and ongoing genocide.
Previous posts by Mårten Gantelius:
|2013||Nov||16||“American Betrayal”: A Swedish Perspective|
|2014||Feb||4||The Swedish Model|
|Mar||3||The True Merchandise|
|23||Feminism and Islam